Integrative Counselling Therapy
for Relational Trauma
Repeating positive affirmations, whether aloud or quietly in one’s own mind, is crucial for individuals who have experienced relational trauma because it helps counteract the negative self-beliefs that often develop as a result of such experiences. Relational trauma can damage one’s self-worth, leading to feelings of unworthiness or fear of rejection. Affirmations work to rewire the brain, replacing harmful internal narratives with empowering thoughts.
Over time, this practice can rebuild self-esteem, foster resilience, and create a more compassionate and loving relationship with oneself, which is essential for healing and moving forward.
I am important. Every day, your actions and presence make a difference, even in ways you might not see. Whether it’s through something small you do or the energy you bring into the world, your unique contributions ripple out in ways that matter.
2. My thoughts and feelings matter. It’s natural to feel the need for connection and belonging, especially after relational trauma. While we may not connect or agree with everyone we meet, our unique thoughts and feelings still hold value. It’s okay to feel different or to see things from your own perspective.
3. I value myself. Remember to respect yourself and prioritize your own well-being. Keep self-doubt at bay and recognize your own worth.
Showering yourself with kindness and compassion is important. The moment that you stop, you’ll notice that your mood shifts into a more negative outlook. You can prevent that from happening by telling yourself that you value yourself first thing every single morning and throughout the day, too.
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball
4. I can handle this. You have the strength to pursue the things that matter to you, even when obstacles arise. Life can be challenging, and not everything will come easily, but with perseverance and a clear focus, you can make progress toward your goals. Don’t let others or difficult moments shake your confidence—keep moving forward, one step at a time.
5. Today is a New Beginning.
Each day brings a small opportunity to start fresh. Relational trauma can leave lasting effects, often casting shadows of doubt or pain that linger in our lives. But while the past may influence us, it doesn’t have to control our future. By focusing on what’s possible in the present moment, we can take small but meaningful steps forward.
Building confidence and self-worth after challenging relationships takes time and patience. Remember to honor your progress, however small, and practice kindness toward yourself. These daily efforts gradually help you reconnect with your inner strength, shaping a future that’s rooted in resilience and self-compassion.
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” – Dr. Benjamin Spock
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Welcome! I support adults who have experienced Relational Trauma reclaim their sense of self and emotional wellbeing. I am an Integrative Counselling Therapist (MBACP) and a Registered Nurse with over 17 years experience.
